Should my two-year-old neighbour detransition?
I have a dilemma I trust you can advise on. My two-year-old neighbour has approached me despairing over a disagreement with her parents. She wants to detransition as she believes she made a terrible mistake when she was 12 months old. Her parents just don’t get her. Should I step in as her advocate or just stay out of it?
First of all… It’s *Doctor* Madeline.
Second of all, de-transitioning is a damaging concept invented by transphobes to perpetuate the idea that transitioning is a bad idea that people sometimes regret.
It’s not. No one ever regrets their transition.
Further, studies (that I have written) have consistently shown that 12 months is the ideal age for a child to begin their gender journey. My concern is that transphobic propaganda has begun to influence xir in a way that will make it difficult for reality to really re-assume its place in this discussion.
My advice: Her parents are clearly the level-headed ones in this situation. You need to encourage them to disconnect the internet.
Am I allowed to eat darker food items?
Dear Dr. Madeline,
I, as a white male, apologize for taking up your time.
I face an issue with my food choices as a lot of things I enjoy eating are African-American in color. I fear the connotations of only eating white things will make it appear that, only things that are white are white are good enough for ingestion.
But I also fear that eating darker food items will signify my willingness to consume people of less fortunate skin colors.
You are forgiven.
I appreciate your gastronomic racial consciousness, but I feel as though you are taking things a bit too literally. Your primary focus needs to be on avoiding those foods which are derived from cultures which are not of your own. In the case of white-skinned people, originating in the prehistoric age on the Pontic Steppe, that would be a kind of brown millet.
Thank you for your question. You are welcome for my knowledge.
Circumcising my child’s genderless genitals revealed my family’s hate
Dear Dr. Madeline,
Since my baby, Chax, came along, my family has grown toxic. And I need help figuring out what to do. Like any true Nazi hater, I understand it’s my responsibility to raise children without enforcing gender roles, and as a proud Jew, I had Chax’s genderless genitals circumcised at birth. When my mother and sister learned of my choice, it was as though they’d been possessed by alt-right demons.
They shouted a bunch of Islamophobic nonsense about “biological sex” and threatened to call Child Protective Services on me… I couldn’t believe it. My own flesh and blood, threatening to sic DONALD DRUMPF’S CPS on their own trans sister?? Crying, I asked them if they even cared that (Trump’s) cops would likely kill me on sight.
And they just stormed out, as though I were the one doing something wrong! Most intense gaslighting I’ve ever experienced. I’ve obviously cut their toxic asses out of my and Chax’s life, but my question to you is, should I also report them to the authorities for the emotional violence they inflicted upon me and Chax in our own home?
It sounds like your family is ignorant of the genderless genital circumcisions that have been performed in diverse Muslim communities for thousands of years.
While your family sounds like they are too far gone to be reasoned with, I want to remind you that you have the authority of legions of academics on your side who recognize the inherent genderlessness of us all. The social construction of gender is inherently legislated by the social-sexual economy, ratified by the cohesive perspective of identification in Otherness we provide through our own internal-external dialogues both through ourselves and through others. Chax is genderless under xe can make those dialogues for ximself. Until then, it is up to you to make those dialogues for xim.
In the meantime, I strongly encourage you to consider reporting your extended family with a hate crime.
Is selling fentanyl an addiction?
Doctor, I’ve been struggling with my brother’s addiction to selling fentanyl. On one hand, I understand the capitalist assertion of maximing your labour force and wanting to take advantage of a hot market. On the other hand, I don’t trust using anything in my kitchen anymore! Please help.
This question is a microagression against persons otherly predisposed towards otherly legal substances. Reported.